Sunday, July 3, 2011

Taking care of family

Balancing the life takes lot of determination, commitment and patience.

These days I am feeling like I am falling short on paying attention to family.

In the process of concentrating on life, I am giving some extra attention to Personality development, Career, adventure/fun that's revolving around ME rather than my family and COMMUNITY

I feel as a CREATOR I can control my destiny but not all the external forces, but the truth is "I Want to be HAPPY and MAKE OTHERS HAPPY". So I feel like I am falling short on making my family HAPPY.

But the BIG question is

"Should you compromise or adjust on your core beliefs or thoughts for making others happy ??"

Should you feel bad in the process of making others HAPPY ??

Ex: my dad wants me to get married etc etc and I don't think I can relate to that and don't feel I am ready for marriage, responsibility and all the drama that comes along with that.
Ex: my uncle feels that I am not WELL CONNECTED to the FAMILY and there is no feeling of "OUR FAMILY"

Yes I have never been affiliated to one group or certain people. Part of being socially independent, I have always been friendly to everyone and treated everyone the same way I would like to be treated. No priorities or SPECIAL treatment to FAMILY MEMBERS but they expect me to treat them SPECIAL and give the extra CARING.

I understand I am where I am because my parents and family and they have contributed for my caring and brought up but definitely were not involved in my whole formation or building of who I am.

Of course I recognize when no ones there for you Family is the one that looks after you. But the challenge is I treat everyone like family and get attached even though that conflicts with what the philosophy of "Being Attached by being Detached" which I can connect to.

Also challenges arise when I am not according to their expectations.

And when I question "For whose sake am I doing all the things I am currently doing ? "

FAMILY is a part of it but definitely not the WHOLE reason.

My Grand Mom always used to say "WIN at the HOME and WIN the SOCIETY"

But I am flipping it around but I will have to think about it

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